What is a best friend? True Friend? or even just a friend? These questions or ideas have been bothering me. I try to do my best to be a friend but often do I loose them. Not sure if it is because I am to caring, trusting, or just do not understand our relationship, maybe I take to much and do not give enough.
Is a friend someone who goes to someone else and tells them all your secrets or your flaws? This person could include another friend, a sister, husband, or even your pastor. I feel that what you talk to your best friend about should stay between the two of you. Not the other people this friend was brought in your life to love and support you not feel like you have been belittled.
I do not have any secrets but sometimes you tell someone in confidence things that you would prefer others to not know. Maybe it could just be a question you had or even something that is going on in your life that you just had to get off your chest. I feel a best friend can tell you what you may need to hear and know that you will take it no matter what. But this should be done out of pure confidence and love with support from behind. If they need to say something they should say it and not just keep it inside and let it ruin the relationship!! This can make it very difficult to be friends not all people can read your mind they do not know what you are thinking. You especially do not need to take your friends out to lunch, buy them things, or spend all kinds of money on them. They may just need your time and friendship. In the past people who were suppose to be friends were not there for me they were there for themselves. They would talk behind my back, tell people that I said things, and even to the point of letting people think that we are using them for their money or mooching off of them.
I decided to look up some verses in the Bible about friends the first one that caught my eye was in Job. His friends were trying to get him to turn away from God but in Job 16 verse 20 he says "My friends scorn me: but mine eye poureth out tears unto God." I think what I see in this verse is that you need to look upon God for a spiritual friend and pray that God will send you a friend like God. Someone who is trusting, caring, you can talk to no matter what, loves you for who you are, and above all can be honest with you no matter how much it can hurt either of you.
In Proverbs 18 verse 24 it says "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother." This is true in order to have friends you need to show your self friendly or go over and beyond. I also believe that you need to treat a friend with Respect and Honesty. If you cannot be Honest with your friends then are they really a true friend to you?
